The birth of our third baby is fast approaching. Which has got us thinking about what a gospel-centred approach to childbirth might look like.
So watch this space, there may be more blog posts pondering this topic coming up in the weeks to come. There’s lots to say on the topic for sure!
Childbirth as a mental battlefield
Let me speak from a woman’s perspective for a minute. I always knew that childbirth was a physical exercise (arguably the most physically strenuous event that can occur in a woman’s life), but it’s only through experience that I realised how much it’s actually an exercise of the mind.
The birth of or first two sons were starkly different in this regard. The first labour was characterised by fear, a defeatist attitude and much physical pain. The second was characterised by optimism, excitement and determination, and yes, pain, but pain I could endure. Guess which one was shorter and more enjoyable? You’ve guessed right, the second one. I know that subsequent births are often shorter, but this isn’t always the case, and I do think mindset has a part to play.
I understand that this perhaps sounds a bit self-help-y. However, anyone who trains for a marathon knows that the training is both physical and mental. First of all you have to get up off the sofa and out to the door, before you can begin your run. Mental preparation is essential, and it’s the thing that keeps you going when your body tells you to give up before the finishing line. Your mind says “keep going” when your legs scream “give up!”
There are lots of athletic metaphors in the Bible, showing the interplay between hard physical training and strong mental images and motivations to endure.
“And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” (Hebrews 12:2-3)
In sporting terms, we talk about visualising the finishing line, keeping our eye on the prize, remaining focused. In the Christian life we are to fix our eyes on Jesus as the motivation to endure. And as we do so, we model Jesus who kept his eye on the prize – sitting down at the right hand of God, with the joy of having redeemed a people for himself. Jesus visualised the end, and that gave him strength to endure the cross. His mental meditation on truth led to a physical endurance.
Meditating on Scripture
I gave birth to our second son while listening to birthing affirmations to relaxing music – it really helped to overcome my fears and to help me focus on the task at hand. It was a great grace of God.
However, it’s made me realise that this time I’d like to meditate on Scripture. Because as much as I’d like to “welcome my baby with joy and ecstasy” (one of the lines from the CD!) I’d also like to remember that “weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning” and that God’s grace is sufficient for me for his “power is made perfect in weakness.”
Comforting Bible verses
So here we go, a list of comforting Bible verses which you may which to memorise (or print out) for during your labour. This can be a help to you whether you are having a natural birth or a planned or emergency C-section. God longs to comfort us all in our time of need. There aren’t many surgeries that we have fully conscious! Meditating on Scripture while in theatre can bring real comfort.
On this – I don’t wish to sound overly pious! I find memorising Scripture difficult, and I’m not sure if I’ll be able to recall it during contractions. However, I’m trusting that God will honour the effort and will bring comfort during my labour – even if that is just that I meditate on one verse over and over again.
And let’s not forget our birthing partners. Our husbands, mums, friends, doulas can read out these Bible verses for us, or pray for us, or make a relaxing/worshipful songlist for us. Let’s not be afraid to express our faith even in front of medical professionals. Childbirth, is a spiritual, emotional and deeply intimate experience after all. [In fact, as a total aside, I have a dear friend (a very gifted evangelist) who shared the gospel with her midwife after her birth!] I’m not at all suggesting that’s what God expects of us, but it is a beautiful possibility.
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We hope that you find these verses a comfort to you. They can be applied to all sorts of situations, not just childbirth, so memorising them is no bad shout – whether or not you’re pregnant.
So what about you?
How did you find comfort in the gospel during childbirth? If you’ve got any suggestions – CD recommendations, tips or other verses then we’d love to here them! Please let us know in the comments box below.